Room 104
Forgiven and Set Free
A post-abortion support and Bible study
This page was last updated: October 24, 2010
Frequently Asked Questions:

What is Room 104?
"Room104 is a ministry that deals with the deep emotional and spiritual pain that can be a result of a past abortion and the bondage a woman is trapped in because of it.  That bondage holds her captive to every negative thought about who she is, what her purpose is and how she sees herself in God's eyes.  God wants to set her free. He wants to break the chains that bind her from fully knowing and rejoicing in the fact that He sat her free from her sin by the work that was done on the cross. She was on His mind while He was on the cross and He loves her unconditionally. She needs to hear that and we are here to make sure she understands it. "--Khristey Walker

Why the name Room 104?
When a woman is seeking healing from a past abortion she does not walk up to the table with the sign-up sheet that reads "Post Abortion Recovery".  She is in so much fear that someone will even find out she is seeking help for this issue in her life. The shame is so overwhelming and the secret is hidden from most people in her life. Many do not even register with their actual names! Women need to know they are protected and safe in our group.  Room 104 came from the first group that was ever held. We did not have a sign on the door stating what the name of our class was to protect their confidentiality.  The room we met in was Room 104 and we joked that we were the, "Secret sisterhood of Room 104".  The name stuck and ever since then, Room104  is what we call our ministry.

Who comes to your group?
Those that can no longer stand the pain and are seeking answers to why they feel so alone and empty.          What they show the world is a pretty face and a bright smile but inside, they are broken and they know it. However; the secret they keep is too awful to share with anyone else. The women that come to Room 104 are desperate for healing and typically they have tried all sorts of counseling and assistance but have never yet admitted to their past abortion.  It is the last ditch effort at healing for most. We have ministry leaders, pastor's wives, business women and every age, race, walk and background.  Post Abortion is not prejudice. It can affect any woman of any background from all walks of life.

What is involved in the group?
We meet for 9-weeks. The first couple of weeks is simply building trust and finding a safe place to share the secret.  Most of the participants in group tell us that they have never told a single person of their abortion and some have been hiding it for over 10 years!  Each week we meet, we cover a chapter in the book, Forgiven and Set Free. The women do the work in the book during the week and journal. We meet and cover the material and what God has shared with them through the scriptures and study. We talk about the issues that come with post abortion such as anger, resentment, forgiveness, shame, grief, letting go and eventually moving on to the place of freedom. It’s a process and all the emotions have to be dealt with. It is not uncommon at all to find the same women who showed up in group cowering alone in a corner sign up to come back as a group facilitator for the next set of women that sign up. They are so excited to be free they want to help others experience the same thing they have just been through.

What is the biggest thing you want these women to understand?
No matter how many groups come through, without fail I hear the same statement over and over again from the women, "I know God forgives me, I just need to forgive myself".  I can guarantee you that is going to be said every time we hold group.  I want women to understand that is not necessary or really, even possible for you to forgive yourself of your sin of abortion. They keep taking their pain to the alter at church over and over again because they still carry it within them. They are confused and feel un-forgiven and can't understand why the pain won't go away. God forgave you when you asked Him to.  He forgave your sin and tossed it away.  You cannot forgive yourself.  If that was possible, we would not need the work that Jesus did on the cross for us.  Sister, God forgives you, what you need is healing!  Forgiveness is instant when you believe, confess your sin and pray and ask God for it.  Healing is a process and your heart and soul needs healing.  Accept His forgiveness. It is free and a lot less work than you trying for the rest of your life to forgive yourself!